This is really duplicate of what I wrote today in my new member profile. But thought if I put it out here someone can maybe respond. And thank you for the welcome I can't believe I found this site
When I had my 4th child at 42 I contracted C-Diff. C-diff is a GI bacterial infection that can be life threatening if not treated. It makes you so sick you want to die. Just when getting over it, my knee swelled to 3x its size. 5 more years of knees swelling and pain off and on til it got so bad I went to an ortho surgeon sure that I had torn something. After Xray, MRI's etc both knees were so bad I could hardly move. When told the MRI showed only inflammation I began to cry. I thought I must be imagining the pain was worse than it was. When the doc saw me try to get up to walk out in tears she stopped me and said this has to be autoimmune and sent me to rheumatologist. My CRP was 6.9 so rheum started prednisone which I hate. It took several more months before the rheum determined it was PsA. I've never had skin lesions so we went through "is it RA-is it this-is it that-more blood work" til the day I showed up with sausage toe and negative RA factor lab. My trigger was the c-diff. I was prescribed methotrexate, Aleve, Prilosec, folic acid, prednisone. Since I last saw my doc I tapered off prednisone because it makes me nuts and gain weight. I held off taking mtx from fear then finally
took it and had mouth sores painful enough that I missed work a few times. So I stopped taking it. Then my year-long flare subsided on its own and now my swelling is way down. My symptoms currently are constant mild throb deep inside my knee radiating down my leg, low back pain when I'm on my feet too long, stiffness when I get up in AM or get up after sitting more than a few minutes and extreme fatigue for all but 4-5 hours each day. I know it sounds like a horrible existence to those without PsA but compared to how I’ve been in the past I deal with it. I also know that sounds like I'm not too bright but the truth is I can't accept this is real or that I have to prevent damage with horrible drugs. I tell myself its my age (48) and that I need to lose 20 lbs. My husband / family don't pay it attention anymore since the flare left and that makes it harder for me to treat it as real. Maybe I don’t remember how normal feels. So I struggle with is this my normal? What if I do nothing? Why can’t I just manage with prednisone, ibuprofen or pain meds during flares? My doc says take mtx or permanent damage is inevitable. A few last comments, I come from a family that has cocktail hour (our joke) before dinner. At the risk of sounding like lushes I’m not talking about boozing it up into the night. We sit, relax, talk about our day etc. Once dinner prep starts we don’t get that private time the rest of the night. I never considered it a bad thing until I was told to take mtx, no alcohol except on special occasions and take these drugs from now on. I’m not able to accept “you can have juice with the adults during cocktail hour” for the rest of my life. I work, have a huge property to take care of, my husband and I run our own business, we have a 6 yr old, 2 almost adult kids living at home and lots of stress. It sounds cliché but we work hard and play hard. I’m not able to get my brain around PsA the rest of my life. At my work I see recently diagnosed cancer patients and the word cancer as a side effect raises my hackles. So if there’s ANYBODY that has similar feelings I would love to hear them. I feel like I’m the only one who is sweeping it under the rug because I don’t have time or patience for this. Sorry to write so much but Ive held it in for so long!