I know for most people when a hired helper quits they just find another, easy, right? Well for us, not so much. True, there are other maids around, I CAN find one, but it's the whole process. You know?
My in laws are in town, I'm mid flare, my cleaning lady quits (on good terms), and my mother is due to visit in a little over a week. Now I have to find people and interview them. It's so draining. I am also a big introvert. Now I need to clean! Goodness, this is not going to happen. I can't even walk right now. My left hip joint is very painful and stiff. Forget a mop people.
I guess it's hard to complain to healthy people. They don't understand. I get comments like: "You only have one child, why do you have a house cleaner?" or "You are young, just do it yourself. Are you just too good to clean?" Well actually, I love cleaning and organizing. If I had the energy and time I would have an organization company. Hell ya, I'll organize the balls off your house.....
OH NO! This you did not need. I get it, I SO get it. It’s the whole spoons thing: you only have so many in a day, and you want to save them for the really important stuff. Like spending quality time with your son. Making a good dinner. Enjoying the evening. Nope, I don’t do mops and vacuums either for the same reason.
With company coming, can you get one of the professional companies to come in a “blitz” the place just before your company pulls into the drive? I know, they are expensive but they do a good job, and fast.
I hope you get this sorted out. And if not, hey … they will just have to take things “as is”. I know, easy for me to say – and “as is” doesn’t happen at our house either.
If I can't find someone in time, I will have one of the those companies come. The house is fine now, but won't be after my in laws leave. Bed linens to wash, towels... etc. If I don't have the cleaners come I won't enjoy my mom being here.
I have one interview for tomorrow morning. My hubs will be home and can do most of the talking .
Hmm, not many students around this area. Most of them are downtown Houston. Maybe some teachers, but I don't know any. I live in a large neighborhood and we have an online community forum. I am sure to find someone there. I just dread the interviews and phone calls. Then trying someone...
The cleaning lady, who just quit, has Lupus. She was so amazing. Very strong person and understood wear I was coming from. When storms rolled in we would cancel on each other! She couldn't get around and I was too stiff to leave the house!!
I also one who can't do mops or brooms or make beds because of my shoulders and hips. I hope you feel better and have found someone at least through the immediate visitors.
My husband's sister and brother-in-law came just after Christmas last year. They got to witness me in mid-flare. I was able to fix dinner the first night and begin my mother's Bolognese sauce for the second, but other than that, Paul kept them entertained (and fed) while I was under my electric blanket for the four days they were here. I think they were a bit shocked at what PsA on the warpath looks like.
I think so too sixcat. My in laws have been a bit shocked at my low mobility. BUT, they have offered to help out a lot and it's made me very happy. I can see that they somewhat understand. I also can't do beds, they are a nightmare.
Oh please organise the balls off my house. We need to get together - I can do cleaning okay, I just find it intellectually taxing deciding what to do and when and how .... and if. Mind you, I find a lot of things intellectually taxing.
Okay, you are the organiser lady - what are the absolute priorities? Beds? Couldn't your husband do them and a few other bits & pieces? Of course, like me he might need support, and threats.
Then there's the option of the phone call to your Mum, either putting her off or laying it on the line that the place might not be perfect. My daughter in law has fibromyalgia, if she was in the same situation I'd understand and then some. And not just because I've got PsA.
There are some priorities of what I can do and hubs does help when he can. What ends up happening though, is we all clean on his day off. I would rather spend time together or do something fun, rather then clean all day. I'll find someone soon or do a mini clean before Mom comes. Maybe one of those clean in a day services. The house isn't bad at all just needs the usual chores done.
I hope you do find a cleaner in time amielynn, was just thinking of what you could do if that doesn't work out. The scenario of spending free time doing chores is all too familiar - heaven knows, I hated that when I was fighting fit, let alone now.
amielynn38 said:
There are some priorities of what I can do and hubs does help when he can. What ends up happening though, is we all clean on his day off. I would rather spend time together or do something fun, rather then clean all day. I'll find someone soon or do a mini clean before Mom comes. Maybe one of those clean in a day services. The house isn't bad at all just needs the usual chores done.
I'm still on the search, but I'll have to start some chores soon. It's getting a bit gummy in here, lol.
On a side note, my in laws have kept me busy. Going out at night, etc. I am spent. No more "go" for me. They leave in a few days and I will welcome the rest. Then I have a week before my mother shows up.
Update: The flare has subsided a little and I am feeling better. Found a cleaner, she comes in a few days for a first time trial. Mom arrives in 7 days. Doing ok here.