I am so sad b/c I HAVE to sell my sister’s Can Am Spyder b/c I have arthritis and it hurts tooooo much to ride it now. She died 2 1/2 years ago from breast cancer. Someone just offered me a reallyyyy low ball offer. It’s just a bumber… It makes me miss her more. Wish SHE was here to ride it! I don’t really want to sell it but PsA is making it so I cannot ride it anymore!
Would you consider keeping it with the thought that you might be able to ride it again? That's a very sentimental item, and it would be a shame to let it go. I'm sorry to hear about your sister.
How might I ride it again? It’s a manual transmission and my left foot is so painful. My fingers go numb as I hold on to the handle bars and my neck, ribs and back hurt so much after I ride it. It’s not one of the new ones with the fancy seat and handle bars. It’s rides like a crotch rocket. Not comfy at all.
Oh. The newer ones come in automatic, don’t they. I’m sorry. That’s a real shame.
Get it into the shop before you sell it. It shifts by hand (on the right) its a centrifigal semi automatic clutch. Oviously its out of adjustment. A few bucks getting it properly adjusted would make it worth more $$$. If I didn't already own two of the 5 speeds, I'd probably be interested, but my wife being the way she is............. my toy budget is shot.
It’s been in the shop. There is nothing wrong with it. i don’t see how you would assume that It is obviously out of adjustment? And it’s not a semi-automatic. The point is…it hurts too much to ride it.
Do as Lamb suggest and get it serviced prior to selling. Don't let someone take advantage of your situation to take the bike for less than it's worth, especially since it has such sentimental value. Maybe even talk to dealer about making a trade for a bike that is more comfortable to ride on good days. Just a thought. My father died of Lou Gehrig's disease and one of the things he told me as his disease progressed was that he wanted to hold on to his freedom and the ability to enjoy all the things he did prior to becoming sick. So should we because when that freedom and ability is gone you may never get it back again. Fight the good fight. :-)
It’s been serviced. I had it in at the end of the season last year!!!
Good suggestion about talking to the dealer. I thought of that earlier tonight when someone gave me a really low-ball offer. I’ll find out what they are willing to give me and then won’t consider anything anywhere near that offer. B/c they will give me the lowest that I can get out of it. Thanks
If you don't need the money, perhaps you can honor her memory and boost your emotions a bit by giving it to someone who really deserves it. Maybe someone who has also lost much, but still has their mobility. Just a thought.
Uh, I do need the money. I’m not independently rich. I bought it out of grief and probably shouldn’t have.
Thank you all. I really don’t need any more suggestions. It is what it is.
I really was looking for support in the form of listening and acknowledgement, not trying to ‘solve the problem’.
Thanks for all the good intentions.
Unless you can take away PsA, then I ‘might’ be able to enjoy riding it again. Or bring back my sister so she can ride it.
I’m talking about grief, sadness, and loss here. Not, how can you fix this for me?
Please: I don’t wish for anymore advice on this. Thank you.
Things can never go back. Support foums are all about moving forward.
You can for a few hundred dollars add a hand shifter to you sisters bike There are all kinds of mobility options.
You will need to run it through a shop before selling. (or expecT low ball offers) There were not a lot of the sm5 sold. They were all recalled because of steering and front suspension problems. You will need to cerify these repairs or it will be awhite elephant.
How many times do I have to tell you? I already have had the bike to the shop.It has had all the recalls fixed. I have the documentation. I have already told you I don’t want anymore advice.
I have already said that my back, neck, arms, shoulders, etc., cannot handle this bike. There are no modifications to be made to change that. I have already talked to the dealer. I’m not asking for your help in selling or repairing my bike.
Part of moving forward is acknowledging loss and sadness. I don’t think you have the right to tell me how to grieve or use this forum Lamb.
I said Thank you. I meant it.
Now please stop giving me advice. Can you let it go now and stop giving me advice as I asked above Lamb?
I'll be happy to stop. Just understand everyone cares and everyone has faced a similar situation. more than once. You are not the first. people are simply sharing how they have/ would handle it ( and i case you didn't notice are also riders) No one denied your feelings, theye are simply sharing theres. Its what its about. You can move forward and grieve as want, as you want. Presumption is coming to aplace where people share and assume they will do so the way you expect. Take what you want ignore the rest. All of it can helpful to the hundreds who read but never post..........
Hi Cir
I know you asked for no more advice about the bike and I won't give you any. My heart goes out to you cause I can hear the desperation in your words of how sad you are. The loss of a loved one is such a difficult thing to go through and our grief cannot be measured in time for how long it takes us to feel better. I lost my mom to colon cancer in 2010 after a three year battle, then 21 months later my father unexpectedly passed away, it was a whirl wind of devastation that is finally now starting to calm down and life is getting back to a new normal. As far as the PsA, we all know how hard it is to deal with the disease. Part of the disease is learning to deal with our expectations of ourself. I do not call it limitations because I do not feel we are limited. I believe in looking at things in a positive light, it makes living with this disease more bearable and for me personally I feel more in control of my disease then the disease having control of me. Cir, I feel so sad for you right now cause I sense you are at a place in your mind today where the whole world is working against you and your hurting so bad from the PsA and emotionally you are still grieving for your sister and the bike is a huge link to your sister and also to your PsA as a constant reminder of what you no longer have or can do. I wouldn't make any quick decisions about the bike until you feel more emotionally calm, if its not costing you anything to keep it where it is, then just leave it for the time being and concentrate your time and efforts on what you can do for yourself right now. I nice warm bath, a stroll around the block, a good book, even a comedy on tv anything to give you a different focus.
Also, I heard the fustration at some of the advice offered to you during this discussion. I don't think any of the good people offering advice meant to upset you, as the advice they were offering was valid and reasonable. I think what upset you so much was you were given advice about the bike when really you were needing some emotional support and a huge hug. (not intending to speak for any of the commentors of this discussion, its just my opinion)
I hope you are feeling better by the time you read this and please know we are all here for you anytime, Feel free to message me anytime, Take care of you and remember, when we have bad days, then also know there are good days to follow
Judy