I guess some of it is the holidays and losing my mom in October, but the pain is really getting me down.
I had to stop PT because it set up terrible back pain that is still on me. I got a steroid shot about three weeks ago and it help for a few weeks, but now all the pain is back. I am at a place I am sure many of you have been. I wonder is it something other than PsA. How is all this stress and pain going to affect my life expectancy? What else can I do, if anything… and on and on.
For the last few months, I have been under a lot of stress. My wife and I are not getting along well and it is really creating immense pain. Every time she argues with me the pain doubles within 5 minutes.
My feelings are that she doesn’t care and really doesn’t understand all the pain I am in. There are a lot of other issues that I am tired of dealing with from her. The biggest being she does nothing to clean the house and hasn’t for about 5 years now. She never has been a good housekeeper but I am living in a dump. I try as much as I can to pick up and clean some, but I just can’t do it anymore. When I struggle to try and clean, she just sits on the sofa and plays on facebook. For a 63-year-old person to be doing that is ridiculous and I am fed up with it.
Several times in the middle of the night I have almost gotten in my truck and just start driving. My brother has offered for me to come live with him if I need a break and I think that is about to happen. I am on the brink of the next time she leaves the house for several hours to pack up my stuff, go to the bank and withdraw all the money, and just start driving and let her have the house and all the trash.
I spend my time trying to figure out if I could live on my own. If I divorce my wife our house would have to be sold. It is so trashed up right now, someone would have to spend a long time attempting to clean it up so it could be sold. I have a 1200 square foot basement that is 95% filled with junk and trash from my wife. I wouldn’t be successful in kicking her out, so the alternative would be for a judge to decide it would be sold.
I don’t know what to do. She yelled at me the other night (which she does all the time) when I asked her something, and I told her to stop yelling at me when I asked her something. She then yelled at me that she wasn’t yelling at me. Every time she says anything to me it is either condescending or a smart ass comment. I can’t deal with it anymore. I have told my brother that I feel that living here and with her is actually going to kill me eventually. The stress is so bad that my heart is beginning to act up.
All the pain and this situation is more than I think I can deal with anymore. I sit and try to understand all the pain and how I can deal with it. Now I realize that the source of much of my pain is sitting across the room from me.
Sorry for venting, but I have no place to turn to vent. My psychiatrist is telling me something has to be done, but I don’t think attempting to work things out with her is a reality.
Have any of you ever thought you needed to just pack up and leave? How did you deal with it?
I can still work from home and will until further notice. I can retire anytime I want, but I would need to be able o draw disability also. Even then, I am not sure I could make it on my own with the monthly income I would receive. I have even thought of moving to someplace like Costa Rica where I could live cheap.
My psychiatrist told me they had the best choice for health care.
Someone give me some advice.