Hey I’m new here I’m from the Netherlands but all the Dutch forums have like last posts from September last year and the next 2 months before that…
I was diagnosed at 18 and have been on a downward slope since then… very very slowly hardly noticeable… especially to me… maybe only to me… but no one said anything …
I’m a lazy person… always have been… and I feel like that makes it so people think I must just be faking it to get out of stuff… or maybe that’s what I fear I do?..
When the pain isn’t really that bad I can’t imagine what it was like to have that much pain… I feel like an imposter trying to pase (sp? “control your energy” ) myself so I stay on a manageable pain level…
Yesterday was like that… And I walked 20 minutes to and from somewhere (normal people walk there in 15 minutes when they walk slow). Now I’m on my way to work and every step seems to hurt more and more… Yesterday the pain wasn’t this bad and it was bad enough that I didn’t notice any of the frost on the trees/everything until I was inside at work… right now I can’t remember how I walked to the bus or the train just that it hurt…
And now I’m sitting in the warm train and feeling stupid because the pain can’t be that bad…
2 weeks ago I had a meeting at work with my supervisor who said I have to stop looking grumpy all the time… and when I told her I couldn’t because I was in too much pain and if I should then call in sick when the pain is so bad I can’t fake happy she said no just don’t look grumpy?
I made a emergency appointment with my reumathologist last Monday and he switched me from diclofenac to naproxen (+3000mg paracetamol) the Friday before that … he ordered xrays, blood work and ultrasound… the ultrasound is going to be this Friday and after that if it’s just one or 2 joints he’ll put shots in them (I really hope these can’t hurt as much as I imagine them hurting…) And I’ll start on new medication… I’m guessing another biological (had humira before)
had a meeting with the “work doctor” (the one who says if you can work or not?) And agreed I should slow down when it hurts more and do more when I can…
But this is so hard for me… Everything I (and everyone) hate doing is what I shouldn’t do… Open boxes with little boxes inside and inside that little bottles you have to pull out (did I mention my thumbs being inflamed?)
It’s so hard for me to know when I’m being lazy or when I shouldn’t do it… And I know right now I shouldn’t do it…
I’m trying to ask myself if I would do it for someone else if they were in this much pain… But I would do it if they had a papercut… So that doesn’t help…
I’m rambling… I know I’m sorry… I’m just really in a bad place… (I don’t want to die but I can’t live like this bad…)
I’m wondering… if you say you can’t walk, is it physically impossible (you’ll pee your pants if the toilet is 20 steps away) or you can’t walk and concentrate on anything other then the pain and it takes 2-5 minutes to take those first 20 steps… I feel like if I can get to the toilet in the morning I can go to work… And I can because I’ve been doing it
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Oops I’ve been typing for 40 minutes I have to get off the train…