Okay so maybe it is not easier to move a mountian than to clean a house and maybe I just am oversensitive and overwhelmed but today I feel like my own family and friends might actually cause my death long before PsA or the medications I take for it ever could.
There is no check list that I have found or set guidelines that I know of that say this person is on immunosupressant drugs for PsA and so the following things need to be done to keep them from catching every darn bug and flu you germy people are carrying on your person into their home and leaving all over their house!
I am a mom of 5 and I have never and I mean this NEVER EVER sent my kids to anyones home sick and when I know someone is going to be coming over for a visit I ALWAYS warn them via phone email text whatever way possible if someone here is sick. To me this is a normal rational way of behaving and I am upset when other people are offended by me asking them to please not come over if they are sick. I actually have been yelled at for not exposing my children to enough germs, my kids play in the mud and rain and outdoors but I apparently am not a good mother according to my MIL unless I allow them to play with children who have a cold flu or sniffle so they can buld up their immune system young (balderdash). When our premature baby was born we were given loads of warnings for the hospital and even told when released from the hospital to try to limit contact for 2 weeks and allow for her to adjust to her new home and siblings in peace before inviting the rest of our family and friends over to meet our new arrival so you can imagine my surprise when MIL arrived at the neonatal unit expecting to hold her grandbaby who at the time was not even allowed any physical contact (sigh)
Anyway I digress I have always lived by these rules even before having children of my own because I grew up with a little sister who had Cystic Fibrosis and I carry the gene for it. I have always been a sickly person any cold, flu or bug to be had I would most definately catch spread to my entire family and then catch again and thus my nickname as a child was typhoid mary (thanks mom). When I would get sick my parents would make me stay in my room and would make my sister whom I shared the room with sleep elsewhere because the simplest of colds would turn into a month of symptoms get everyone else sick and then get it once more as a secondary infection for good measure before getting over it.
Even the weakest of all medications that may possibly have a 1 in a million chance of weakening your immune system ends in me being sick all the time not just a little bit but majorly. I am talking lung infections to the point of hospitalization stomach flu to the point of hospitalization or weird infections like lock jaw where not only did I have to be hospitalized but I also had to be fed via a tube down my nose just to get nourishment into my body.
Now having explained all of this my question is why are there no guildelines for home cleanliness and personal hygiene for guests who visit people who have not only a compromised immune system and take immunosuppressant drugs but specifically those who suffer from Psoriasis or Psoriatic Arthritis?
Where is the common sense in people that says you just coughed, sneeze, spilled egg (insert bacteria here) on the counter wiping it with a dry towel is not okay! You are only rubbing it into the counter and the next moist object to touch that spot will most definately pick up that bacteria pass it around to the toddlers and the teenagers and not only will your whole family get sick but since my children go to 4 seperate schools you have now put the entire town at risk of "another Hillebrandt plague!" Yes this is how our town knows us... we are the sick people ... the pediatrician said we actually threw off the stadistic for the small village we live in when all of our kids came down with scarlet fever at once and that triggered a call from bigger health officials wondering why so many cases in such a short time had occurred in this area (not a proud moment I can assure you). Nonetheless we keep a clean home and children who are exposed to normal life conditions who would most likely not get sick very often if everyone else would stop sending their sick kids to our house to play with promises of its only an allergy ...3 kids with fevers later oh whoops sorry but better they build up those immune systems now right?
Anyway does anyone know of any guidelines for how to protect against germs and bacteria for the compromised immune systems of people with PsA or complications from PsA?
Are there guildelines for immunesuppression therapy treatments in general for cleaning and protecting against germs and bacteria? If not are there guidelines for each individual medication?
How have things changed for you guys?
Do you have your own rules for cleanliness in your home because of your medications or your PsA in general?
Do you have rules for your family and friends who visit?
Has your doctor ever put limitations on where you can and can not go due to the medications you take? Mine suggested I not be the one to take my children to the pediatrician. He also suggested I avoid school and church functions and whenever I can not aviod them to at leat wear a mask. Am I the only one whos doctor sets such high standards?
Feeling like no one will ever understand my situation and I am sick of being sick with things that could have been avoided because everytime I get an infectious type of illness I end up having to stop the medications that control my disease which sends me into a flare and what hubby and I refer to as the circle of suck =/ as a joke on the circle of life (lion king).
Please I really need advice, tips, help, and if possible websites or books or medical journals or heck any such place where guidelines exist other than in my head as so many people are suggesting.
Also I am American and live in Germany I am fluent in German but find it a thousand times harder to express my concerns in German especially with no other material type evidence to back up my claims except the words of my doctors and specialists who are according to a certain someone (MIL) all quacks anyway.
Thanks a ton in advance and sorry this post is so long and that I ramble in circles. This has been a really hard year for me and I am feeling like I am the only one who actually cares about my health. I know my family cares but they are also to afraid to stand up and say no your runny nose can not come in.... my teenagers and even my husband say they feel bad turning people away because we have no real valid proof except the warnings from my doctors who apparently have no actual printed material on the subject for PsA but do have tons of literature for the same medications (exact same treatment in fact) for patients with cancer which when shown to others leads to them saying but you do not have cancer and thus having all of my wishes ignored.