Today at the grocery store I was loading my grocery into my trunk while wrangling my 4 year old. The lady next to me, in her early 60's maybe, is starring in a huge one woman show of "Oh, This Bag IS So Very Heavy..." next to me. Honestly, she seems capable, and if she wasn't making such a big deal about it, I would have helped.... BUT my back is hurting badly today, AND I can barely move. I still had to go to the store to get groceries, oh and a did by some plants (my weakness) but I'm not complaining (I am here, but you know what I mean).
It got me thinking. She could have some chronic illness. She could be in lots of pain. I am. Today is a average day. Oh, well. I can't help everyone. I have to help myself.
Amielynn, I know what you mean. I really feel badly when someone looks like they need help and I just can't make my body do what I need done, much less help someone else. I also have that plant weakness. And by the way, my daughter's name is Amie. Hope your back gives you some relief soon.
It's okay.... don't beat yourself up about it-you're a busy young mom--its a hard job, even if you're not sick--I can't imagine how hard it would be having PsA and having all that work!
Something similar happened to me at work a few months back. A student worker in our office (about 22 years old) handed me her pop bottle asking me to open it. I handed it right back and said my hands are too sore and weak---I have trouble opening bottles. She looked at me in disbelief! I'm like, these hands don't feel real good and showed her my hands. I was surprised she hadn't noticed my puffy, crooked fingers before that.
Here's the worst, though: my 89 year old mom, who I'm sure felt better than me before I started Enbrel, constantly needs me to do things for her-she is quite fussy about keeping her house clean, etc. I feel like I have so much on my plate already-- 2 part-time jobs, babysitting my 2 yr old granddaughter 2 days a week--all the cooking, cleaning and yard work at home cuz my husband won't do it, etc., etc.,--I have a brother who's retired and in good health who has a very relaxed life who I think she should ask for help. I feel bad I'm not able to do more for my mom (I should say she has a way of putting me on a guilt trip), but I'm only one person.
I guess I shouldn't advise you to not feel bad about not helping the lady, when I beat myself up all the time for not being there to help my mom as much as she'd like. :-(