Hi Emma,
Movement, physical therapy, exercise, ice, and heat.
Personally, I find if my joint is visibly swollen and red, ice is often helpful, whereas if it just feels stiff, then it seems that heat works better - but everyone is different so you’ll have to experiment - some advocate alternating the two! This is just first aid though - not real management or prevention.
Movement, physical therapy, and exercise (as much as you can reasonably do), are critical - think of them more as management of the issue. It took me a while to accept it, but sitting too long - really is sitting too long. So the trick to this bit is to really pay attention to how long is too long, and do as much as you can to get up and move before it happens.
But above all, do regular PT, or exercise of sort. Remember, you are 31, and this is a marathon - not a sprint, you have a lot of years yet to run (pun intended). I have always found exercise and PT hard - not because I don’t like them, but because often it feels like one step forward and two back. So my ‘exercise goal’ is just showing up
When I first started, 1 month, 2 months, even 6 months, it seemed there was no change. But 3 years later I woke up one day and realized I had gone from being tired and so sore I was overwhelmed after a 1km flat walk (I had some big issues that caused at lot of muscle degeneration at onset, age 36), to, on a normal day, being able to hike hills for 5km.
Now, as long as I’m not in a flare, I can meander slowly in the bush for the whole day, covering around 8-10km. I’ll be sore and stiff the next day, but more like a slightly exaggerated version of “I went too hard at the gym” than “oh my god I can’t move” that PsA can invoke.
So to my final point. the DMARDs are the prevention part.
I can understand your concerns. I was very lucky, in many ways, my onset was soon after I had my daughter, rather than before. I have read a small amount about this (papers directed at the Rhuematologist), and my understanding is that the aim is to get the patient stable before they try to get pregnant, then remove anything toxic during the “trying” and pregnancy period, and have a plan for what to do after birth (as many experience flares post birth).
You might already have such a plan with your Rheumy, but if you don’t, it is worth opening the discussion to see if you can make that plan, because at the end of the day, if you can be as successful as possible with the prevention part, you’ll get to enjoy your little one even more
Unfortunately I know all too well the last place you need to be with a little one relying on you is in a flare, not knowing what medication will work.