Lol thanks louise! I had no idea they would even mention sex position in the brochure!! That’s awesome, I will check it out
Louise Hoy said:
Hi, The athritiscare.org.uk site has a pdf booklet which you can download. I just typed in arthritis and sex life into search. It covers alot of areas to do with relationships including diagrams of positions which may be more comfortable…we have had great fun trying them out " Well baby do you fancy a bit of number 4" lol But seriously they do put out some good information on a variety of topics including lack of desire. The key for me is communication, as long as you don’t let your intimacy fall by the way side and talk about how you feel you will work out your own ways.
Recently I had cooked my partner his favourite dinner, we had the house to ourselves, I was, shall we say, saucily dressed. But I fell asleep in front of the tv My partner didn’t wake me he sat with me after eating his dinner and washing up, and let me wake by myself…it didn’t matter Id fallen asleep he loves me and we had a nice night…at least by sleeping I recovered some ‘spoons’
Glad u enjoyed it bunny I was so glad I raised the topic! We all had a good girlie chat, lots of great info and a good giggle I wasn’t sure if anyone would comment, but it turned out great!
HoneyBunny said:
Great topic…good advice and made me laugh too. Thanks for posting.
Very good discussion I’m glad you started it! My husband and I talk through everything and he understands when I just can’t. Sometimes I feel awful that I can’t but soo very thankful for a husband that understands supports and love me through all of the “fun” effects of PsA and fibro!
Yes I know what you mean! We are very lucky to have such understanding partners. As long as we express how grateful we feel to have them, they know how much it means to us
Mindy said:
Very good discussion I’m glad you started it! My husband and I talk through everything and he understands when I just can’t. Sometimes I feel awful that I can’t but soo very thankful for a husband that understands supports and love me through all of the “fun” effects of PsA and fibro!
Intimacy is an important part of any committed relationship, but it shouldn't define your relationship. My husband and I have had to be very....creative. But we manage. Find a position that doesn't put undue pressure on the affected joints. It may mean some calisthenics on his part (big grin), but it can work.
And think of this...you are only 29. I'm assuming your partner is about the same age. When you guys get to be in your 40s or 50s or 60s...the shoe may very well be on the other foot (meaning he may end up developing lowT or erectile dysfunction). How you guys work out the problems now will help you overcome those issues later. The most important advice I can offer is to openly and honestly communicate. It doesn't hurt to practice being silly during intimacy either :)
I agree. Communication and some innovation and happy days. I am willing to put up with a little pain whenever I can which isn’t always, for the fantastic way you feel for a while. Those endorphins are pretty good short term pain relievers.
But seriously they do put out some good information on a variety of topics including lack of desire.
My partner didn’t wake me he sat with me after eating his dinner and washing up, and let me wake by myself…it didn’t matter Id fallen asleep he loves me and we had a nice night…at least by sleeping I recovered some ‘spoons’
